when i was job searching, i had submitted nearly a dozen resumes to companies around Indy, start-ups and non-profits that i had a passion for working alongside. i hesitantly put my name forward for the company i work for as well, and was shocked that the only call-back i received was from them. in fact, i cried.
i could only see this move as a step back. after i had made so much headway into what i would have considered my calling, i was going back to corporate America. selling my soul to the man. i went through the interview process, grieving all that i had thought would work, all that i had hoped would be what i wanted. it was an emotional process of letting go, and embracing a new experience. i am so thankful, now, that this job presented itself as a possibility.
eventually, i got a couple more interview requests but knew, deep down, this was the choice for me, and i turned them down.
a friend and i were celebrating a recent experience where she was able to say no, firmly, to something that was not good for her and act on it. we discussed how important it is to acknowledge such an accomplishment, especially when, if you’re like me, you tend to find identity and comfort in the bad choices. no matter how much they usually hurt in the end. learning to not choose what is bad is the first step in healing. in walking forward in beauty and truth and light.
it doesn’t stop there, tho. the next step in that journey must be learning to choose what is good. it is this step that seems entirely hard to grasp, and i grow more and more thankful that good things tend to be the only option so that i am often forced to walk toward them.
similar to the job situation, i sit in a very unique place relationship wise. a good guy, with incredible qualities, who treats me with dignity and respect, sits before me as a possibility. a very real and excellent possibility. still, i sit, almost unable to reach out my hands, fearful for some strange reason. then i think about something that was shared at yoga, that deep down i don’t feel myself worthy of anything good. i don’t find myself worthy of good attention, or respect, or even love.
i can reject what is bad, but i must really work to choose what is good….and so i grieve all that i ever hoped would work out and hasn’t, all that i’ve tried, the bad decisions and the mistakes that have taught me so much. i try to remind myself of my beauty, my light. i try not to be so defensive when a compliment comes my way. i try to see myself through the eyes of someone who adores me. i try to remind myself that i deserve good things, that i deserve to be loved. that i am loved, and worth loving.
it’s funny…i’ll dive head first into a situation with an unknown outcome, but i hesitate so timidly at the edge of a situation that would bring such life. and so the journey continues…perhaps it will lead me to a place where choosing good things for myself will not seem so foreign or so impossible.